I’ve spent the better part of the last few days fine tuning my ‘Rihanna’ station on Pandora. Using the handy dandy thumbs up and down buttons, I’ve crafted a station that is loaded with jam after jam. Seems a strange way to start this post, I know… But it will make sense in just a few.
The events that occurred in Orlando were appalling. Devastating. Heartbreaking. Trying to avoid everyone’s two cents on what happened is simply impossible. Everywhere you turn there it is, staring you in the face. It’s tragic, and something that we shouldn’t even have to think about, never mind discuss. But these things are happening… all the time. So what’s one to do?
Choose love. Choose happiness. And choose peace. Of course that can seem really fucking hard when you know that there are folks out there that are suffering at the hands of the unthinkable actions of another human being. It’s easy to dwell on hate and fear. Our fight or flight response wires us to do so. We want to take action. Effect change. See repercussions for such heinous crimes. Right? But what happens when we all do this?
More hate. More fear. More conflict. More suffering. Now I’m not saying that we shouldn’t take action. Or that there shouldn’t be repercussions for those responsible for brutal crimes. Or even that you aren’t entitled to your feelings of hate or fear. Those things are all to be expected… And to a point, needed for change to occur. But when we spend a large portion of our time and energy focusing on fear or hate, we reflect more of it back into our lives… Literally making it more likely that these types of terrible things will happen again. Ya dig?
Let me explain… I think we can all agree that the Law of Attraction is real. Most accept that what you believe to be true helps to shape your reality. Right? If you constantly expect your life to suck, it will. On the flip side, if you believe that it will be fucking awesome, then it is. You can see the Law of Attraction in action, on a small scale, in your everyday life. One small thing can set you off on a path to a really shitty day… You burn your tongue on your morning coffee. Now you’re annoyed… You head off to work and some asshole cuts you off. You sit in traffic. Your boss is being a dick. The printer won’t work. Etc., etc., etc. It’s like you literally need to reboot your attitude in order to turn your day around. This, in essence, is your consciousness at play. You’re vibrating on a low frequency, thereby attracting negative experiences into your life.
Practicing mindfulness, through things like yoga or meditation, can help you to start shifting your focus and start attracting more enjoyable experiences into your life, as well as not letting the shitty moments get to you. Most of us are really bad at this. Myself included, but I’m really working on it. Now let’s take this information and shift to thinking about it on a large scale.
Yes, your thoughts help to create your reality. But our thoughts help to create our collective realities. Get it? It’s called collective consciousness, and research is actually starting to prove that it’s real. Buddha knew his shit… We are literally living in the matrix. What does this mean? Well, when we’re all constantly bombarded with information about terrible events, and we all dwell on them, what happens? We collectively worry about it. We collectively fear that the same could happen to us. We collectively hate those responsible. And we thereby collectively make it more likely to happen again. We’ve collectively created a vicious cycle of fear and hate that needs to be broken.
Everyone knows the sayings. And they are true. “Do unto others as you would have done unto you.” “Treat others how you’d like to be treated.” “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” “Love thy enemy.” We’ve heard them all, but they mean so much more than what people take them for. You need to literally love your enemy. That’s hard as shit. How the fuck am I supposed to “love” some psychopath on a shooting spree? I don’t have the answer to that. But hating and fearing them is the actual enemy. Slowly, people seem to be waking up to this.
It’s so wonderful to see that people’s focus is shifting to acknowledging the heroes and victims in these types of crises, instead of the criminals. And that folks won’t let fear keep them from living their lives as they so choose. We’ve seen vigils with thousands of people offering love and support to those in need. Global meditations with millions of participants spreading love. And researchers using meditation to decrease violent crime rates. These types of actions are the ultimate in defiance against those who aim to destroy us with fear and hate. But smaller everyday actions that you take can also help effect change.
We all need to accept that we are humans with a wide range of emotions… And we are entitled to all of them. It’s part of what makes being human so amazing. So allow yourself the time to feel whatever it is you’re feeling. Just be mindful of it. You can choose to dwell on things that make you fearful or full of hate… That’s fine if that’s what you choose. Your mind is your own and you can use it however you want. I choose to try not to dwell on things that elicit feelings of fear or hate. I meditate daily. I notice when I’m being a bitch, and try to stop. (Try being the operative word.) I take time to be present, look around me and notice all that I have to be thankful for. And I actively choose to envision a future that is one I would want for my children.
If all else fails, I turn on Pandora. Guess what station? Yuuuuup… You guessed it. Rihanna. I turn that shit up so loud, I’m sure my retired neighbors hate me. (Don’t care.) I dance around my house with my kids and act a fool. I smile just because I know I should. And I forget about all the terrible shit that’s happening all over the world, and choose to just have fun. You know what would happen if we all did that?
Love. Peace. And Happiness.
Namaste ~ Becky
If this post interested you, I’d encourage you to do further research on your own. Looking into such topics as, ‘collective consciousness,’ ‘the shadow self,’ ‘frequency & vibration,’ or ‘meditation’ will get you off to a good start.